I’m still finishing up with my notes from last month’s presentation in Dallas, Texas. I mentioned Dr. Ed Hallowell’s book Connect: 12 Vital Ties That Open Your Heart, Lengthen Your Life, and Deepen Your Soul during the presentation, and I wanted to give you a quick update on a resource I found that lists those twelve ties in an abbreviated–but useful–form. It’s from Dr. Hallowell’s website. The twelve ties are:
- Your family of origin. Are you as emotionally close to your family of origin as you would like to be?
- Your immediate family. Do you treat one another with love and respect?
- Your friends and community. Do you see friends and neighbors on a regular basis?
- Work and activities. Do you feel a sense of mission at work?
- Appreciation of beauty. Do you make time to enjoy a favorite art form?
- History. Do you feel the power of the past in your daily life?
- Nature and special places. Are there special places that speak to you in ways no other place can?
- Pets and other animals. Do you seek companionship from your pet or other animals?
- Ideas and information. Do you feel that you know how to get the most out of your brain power?
- Institutions and organizations. Do you take pride in group membership?
- Greater truth or spiritual faith. Do you continue to seek the truth by whatever means make sense to you?
- Yourself. Do you feel comfortable being who you are?
It’s a down-and-dirty list, but it clearly shows how one can make connecting a spiritual path. Which is something I think we need to do if we’re truly going to make our congregations the kind of connected communities our children and youth need.